experience change you~

 It's interesting that no matter how we hate adventure, it always come and give you a whole lots of experience... and yes that experience will change you... but either for better or for worse, it is all for you to define... there may be experiences that help you to see how cruel life can be, but again there are experiences that shows you how magnificent life is, by never running out of colors to help you paint a picture in your journey... I always mentioned this principle that Abah taught me, take one step at a time... it is easy to understand cause by taking one step at a time you can see things more clearly and at the same time, you able to control your pace... but as I grow older, I find another meaning to this phrase... by taking a step at a time, it makes you value all the steps you have taken, to be where you are... cause every step you take is taken after considering all the consequences and possibilities to happen...of course you may have taken a wrong step once throughout your journey, but imagine if you didn't take those steps...will you reach where you are now?... and of course there are also situations where we wonder, should we be where we are now, is this the place we are aiming to when we took our first step?... thus, there are doubts in life that act as shadows and haunts when our guide light runs out of batteries haha... let me share a quote from "Dream High"..."all these 'if and 'what if'... if you keep going backwards like that, none of us should have ever been born"...it's simple, stop questioning when did you take the wrong step, instead seek for a step that can lead you to where you are going to... every one of us have their own goal/aim in life... and sometimes these aims changes as we move closer to it...so do we need to start from the starting line again just because we have a different goal now?...no! why?...cause you won't change your goal at the first place if you didn't go through all those steps...I am facing this problem called "fear of the unknown"...but I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one having this issue...but I'm trying my best to deal with it, and of course by taking a step at a time...another quote, this time from "Just between lovers(Rain or Shine)"...this is a conversation between a hard headed halmeoni(grandma) and a hot headed boy..."Living is a repetition of regrets and failures","Then what's the point of living?","It's to make even better regrets and mistakes, so don't be a scaredy-cat"...you might not get the message by reading it in a glance so let me share another quote from "Radio Romance"... "The post-it(memo pad) was a failed product while trying to make a strong adhesives. A failure that became a hit. Keep jumping into things that are failures so you can turn the failures into success"...get it? sometimes having regrets and mistakes aren't that bad...as I said earlier, those are all experiences that help you to create a lifetime journey for yourself... k I think let's stop sharing anymore quotes from dramas hahaha... but seriously, these are one of the reasons why I like watching such dramas, of course apart from the visuals and the cinematography, these drama can actually teach you a lot about life in general... that's why I don't understand people that judges such dramas without even watching them...or people who watch out of following the trend...at the end of the day they didn't gain anything from it... I'm not saying only kdrama has this elements... scripts that teach us about life,love,career can be found in most drama shown in TV...no matter what language it use...plot can be cliche in some drama...not just that, sometime they are super cringy to watch...but putting those things aside, a great scripts truly differentiate a quality drama from others... hahaha...why Arfa suddenly giving these random lectures today hahahah...I don't know, I just feel like each day, I learn something new without realising it... I hope that I can continue taking steps that guide me to where I want to be, and I hope all these lessons learnt and experiences gained help me in becoming a person that I want to be...hehehe...Hwaiting Nur Arfareena Arman!!!